The predicament of your future
Probably everyone had a dream job in their childhood. At that time we knew nothing about the reality of paying taxes, working 9 to 5 or how a shitty job feels like. Society invests a lot of time and money to keep this unreality true for as long as possible, usually until children attend their first school at the age of 6.
After that time we first start talking and working on our future. The Abitur is typically the first big goal in life and is for quite some time our only one. Anyone who has graduated and is already working knows how naive this assumption was, but that's not even derogatory, as it simply doesn't make sense at this time to worry about the difficulties of being an adult.
The further we go in our life the more possible life paths we can take and the more impact they have on our life. Every child is required to visit school until a certain age, but after that no one ever tells you what to do. This is an enormous responsibility that many do not live up to or are unable to fulfil.
Nowadays, we have unlimited possible paths and the internet shows us how they could turn out. How are you expected to select the one for you that just works out, when you don't even know what you like and don't like? Two weeks ago you just handed in your final maths test.
The big advantage of this selection is that we never have to commit ourselves and can change relatively easily. You can move freely within the EU and change jobs within a week, just like your partner. If you don't like the dog, it goes back to the shelter. Making quick decisions and waiting and assessing the consequences has become the new way of life.
In case it hasn't been emphasized enough. This is the concept of freedom. The big sticking point is that we have to take responsibility for ourselves to use this freedom properly in order to find our way.
The big problem is that more does not mean closer to our goal. Just because I've seen every country in the world or been in 25 relationships doesn't mean I've found my way of life. The big responsibility is not to make changes, but to accept when they don't suit us or make us unhappy. The paradox is: how can we be unhappy when there are countless ways to escape from the current situation?
Quite simply, in today's society, standing still and accepting something suggests that we no longer want to develop and have finished with our freedom.
The more freedom and opportunities we have, the more we feel compelled to constantly look for new ways and changes to become happy. But true happiness often requires us to accept what we have and not constantly strive for new opportunities. This leads to a contradiction: the freedom that is theoretically supposed to make us happier can actually make us unhappy because it prevents us from finding contentment and acceptance.
At the end there is a nice idea in which you can combine acceptance and things you like with development. When was the last time you repeated something from your childhood, e.g. rollerblading?
We try something supposedly knew where we already have strong emotions from our childhood and thus experience satisfaction.
This might not solve your crisis, but bring up the strong emotions of your childhood where all those problems didn't exist yet.
